Most research shows that peer violence among boys is steadily increasing, while young people face serious mental health challenges. The data on the mental health of boys and men in our society highlights an urgent need for discussion and action on this critical issue.
On May 14, HERA organized a panel discussion on the topic: “Self-Care and Mental Health Among Boys and Men” at the Student Cultural Center (SKC).
During the debate, speakers highlighted the long-standing issue that men and boys often struggle to express their emotions and are less likely to seek help when needed. In our culture, the ideal of the “strong man” is frequently promoted—a man who doesn’t talk about his feelings, doesn’t cry, and handles his problems on his own. This stereotype creates significant pressure and prevents men from opening up about their emotions or seeking support.
Kiril Trojachanec, a psychologist and expert in stress and anxiety, emphasized during the panel debate: “Men are often taught to suppress their emotions from a young age. This leads to difficulties in expressing and understanding their feelings, which can result in mental health issues. It’s crucial to change this cultural norm through education and support.”
Vesna Matevska, Program Coordinator at HERA, provided an overview of the support program for men and boys, stating: “The program is designed to be accessible and welcoming, with a focus on confidentiality and support. We offer free services and promote open communication to encourage men to seek help.”
Lenche Aleksovska-Velichkovska, a sports psychologist, pointed out: “The most common misconceptions are that men shouldn’t show weakness that asking for help is a sign of failure, and that emotional expression is for women. These stereotypes can lead to serious mental health issues.”
The event was moderated by Viktor Buchkovski, who pointed out that the debate wouldn’t be complete without consulting artificial intelligence. He asked ChatGPT to explain what a psychologist is and requested an explanation suitable for a 5-year-old. The response was: “A psychologist is like a doctor for your mind. They help people feel better when they’re sad, confused, or nervous. Imagine having a box full of different feelings and thoughts. A psychologist helps you sort them out so you can handle them better. They listen to you and give advice on how to deal with problems.”
The panel debate sparked an excellent discussion among the youth, with participants showing great interest in the topic and asking numerous questions to the guest psychologists. They were curious about the newly opened MM Center for Support and Counseling for Boys and Men and the types of therapy provided. During the panel, HERA introduced the MM Center, which offers free counseling and support from psychotherapists and psychologists for boys and men. Counseling will be available in person or via virtual channels. The center will be open for services on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays from 10 AM to 5 PM. Appointments can be made by calling 070/299-026, emailing viktor.buchkovski@hera.org.mk, or via Instagram @man.mind.skopje.
The event was held with the support of the Austrian Association Verein Für Männer – und Geschlechterthemen Steiermark, Austria, and the Austrian Federal Ministry of Social Affairs, Health, Care, and Consumer Protection.
With this event and the newly opened center, we aim to send a clear message: seeking help is not a sign of weakness, but of strength and courage. Silence is not the solution to all your problems. Every man deserves access to support and resources that will help him live his life the best they can.
